Also see Forgiveness, Kindness, Acceptance and Regret.

Quotes

• Anger is a symptom, a way of cloaking and expressing feelings too awful to experience directly--hurt, bitterness, grief and, most of all, fear. (Joan Rivers)
• Anger is not only inevitable, it is necessary. Its absence means indifference, the most disastrous of all human failings. (Arthur Ponsonby)
• Anger is only one letter short of danger.
• Any statement that begins: "There are two sides to every question..." ignores the third side, which is usually the correct one.
• Anyone can become angry--that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way--that is not easy. (Aristotle)
• Balancing your anger balances your life.
• Before you give someone a piece of your mind, make sure you can get by with what is left.
• The best manner of avenging ourselves is by not resembling him who has injured us. (Jane Porter)
• The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. (Jacqueline Schiff)
• The best way to win an argument is to begin by being right. (Jill Ruckelshaus)
• Beware the fury of a patient man. (John Dryden)
• Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean. (Maya Angelou)
• By the time you have lined up the third person on your side, the first two will have wandered off somewhere.
• Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
• The difficult part in an argument is not to defend one's opinion, but rather to know it. (André Maurois)
• Envy, among other ingredients, has a mixture of the love of justice in it. We are more angry at undeserved than at deserved good-fortune. (William Hazlitt)
• Even if we disagree about everything, we can still be kind to one another.
• Ever notice how the people who tell you to calm down are the ones who got you mad in the first place.
• Every man has a right to his opinion, but no man has a right to be wrong in his facts. (Bernard M. Baruch)
• For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
• A friend told me he never met a man he agreed with on everything nor one he disagreed with on everything and if he ever did, he would trust neither.
• Friends may come and go, but enemies accumulate. (Thomas Jones)
• A good listener tries to understand thoroughly what the other person is saying. In the end he may disagree sharply, but before he disagrees, he wants to know exactly what it is he is disagreeing with. (Kenneth A. Wells)
• A grouch escapes so many little annoyances that it almost pays to be one. (Kin Hubbard)
• Guilt is anger directed at ourselves. (Peter McWilliams)
• Have a nice day...somewhere else.
• He that complies against his will is of his own opinion still. (Samuel Butler)
• He who angers you, controls you.
• I can argue with anybody--I always lose, but I can argue with anybody. (Raymond Kirklin)
• I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to.
• I don't need anger management. I need people to stop ticking me off.
• I have never in my life learned anything from any man who agreed with me. (Dudley Field Malone)
• I have never killed a man, but I have read many obituaries with a lot of pleasure. (Clarence Darrow)
• I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain. (James Baldwin)
• I yell because I care!
• If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang. (Charley Reese)
• If someone betrays you once, it's his fault; if he betrays you twice, it's your fault.
• If you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war inside yourself.
• If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. (Chinese Proverb)
• If you can't answer a man's argument, all is not lost; you can still call him vile names.
• I'm feeling argumentative...please contradict me.
• In an argument, the best weapon to hold is your tongue.
• It is better to debate a question without settling it than to settle a question without debating it. (Joseph Joubert)
• It is difficult to win an argument when your opponent is unencumbered with a knowledge of the facts. (Dr. Nordstrom)
• It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend. (William Blake)
• It is human nature to hate the man whom you have hurt. (Tacitus)
• It's easy to be an angel when nobody ruffles your feathers.
• Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean that I hate you. We need to relearn that.
• Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless. (Mother Theresa)
• Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom. (Theodore Isaac Rubin)
• Listen closely to your enemies. They tell you your faults.
• Listening to both sides of a story will convince you that there is more to a story than two sides. (Frank Tyger)
• Many people lose their tempers merely from seeing you keep yours. (Frank Moore Colby)
• Most people are willing to meet each other halfway, the trouble is, most people are pretty poor judges of distance.
• Never argue with a fool...people watching might not be able to tell the difference.
• Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.
• Never kick a man while he is down...he may get up. (Farmers Almanac)
• No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched. (George Nathan)
• No matter what side of an argument you're on there are always some people on your side that you wish were on the other side.
• Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger. (Chinese Proverb)
• One often contradicts an opinion when what is uncongenial is really the tone in which it was conveyed. (Friedrich Nietzsche)
• The only person who listens to both sides of an argument is the woman next door.
• The only substitute for good manners is fast reflexes.
• Pay attention to your enemies, for they are the first to discover your mistakes. (Antisthenes)
• People generally quarrel because they cannot argue. (Gilbert K. Chesterton)
• Please don't mistake my endurance for hospitality!
• Probably the best remedy for anger is delay.
• Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. (Malachy McCourt)
• Silence is argument carried out by other means. (Richard Flecknoe)
• Silence is golden--but shouting is fun.
• Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute. (Josh Billings)
• Silence will save me from being wrong (and foolish), but it will also deprive me of the possibility of being right. (Igor Stravinsky)
• A single fact can spoil a good argument.
• Some people are like Slinkies...not really good for anything, but you still can't help but smile when you see one tumble down the stairs.
• Some people owe their lives to the fact that murder is illegal.
• Sometimes the best way to convince someone he is wrong is to let him have his way. (Red O'Donnell)
• Sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
• Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. (Ambrose Bierce)
• Swearing was invented as a compromise between running away and fighting. (Peter Finley Dunne)
• Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair but manifestations of strength and resolution. (Kahil Gibran)
• To observe people in conflict is a necessary part of a child's education. It helps him to understand and accept his own occasional hostilities and to realize that differing opinions need not imply an absence of love. (Milton R. Sapirstein)
• Should you ever find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, smallness or insecurities, remember: Things could be worse, you could be them.
• Spiteful words hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.
• To speak of "mere words" is much like speaking of "mere dynamite". (C.J. Ducasse)
• A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent. (William Blake)
• Usually when people are sad, they don't do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about change. (Malcolm X)
• We often give our enemies the means of our own destruction. (Aesop)
• We should always remember that cutting remarks have a way of leaving scars.
• We think of revenge as 'getting even.' But why would you want to be 'even' with a jerk?
• When I disagree with a rational man, I let reality be our final arbiter; if I am right, he will learn; if I am wrong, I will; one of us will win, but both will profit. (Ayn Rand)
• When I get angry, he gets angry at me for being angry. So he ignores me and I have to apologize to him for being angry while I'm still angry at him for something he did that I felt was wrong.
• When one will not quarrel, two cannot. (Dadi Janki)
• When we are in the supermarket and someone rams our ankle with a shopping cart then apologizes for doing so, why do we say 'It's all right'? It isn't all right, so why don't we say, 'That hurt, you idiot'?
• The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn't angry enough. (Bede Jarrett)
• The worst sin toward our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them: that's the essence of inhumanity. (George Bernard Shaw)
• You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.
• You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into.
• You don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note. (Doug Floyd)

A Poison Tree

(William Blake)

I was angry with my friend,
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe,
I told it not, my wrath did grow.

Primer Lesson

(Carl Sandburg)

Look out how you use proud words.
When you let proud words go,
it is not easy to call them back.
They wear long boots, hard boots;
they walk off proud;
they can't hear you calling--
Look out how you use proud words.

A Choice of Weapons

(Phyllis McGinley)

Sticks and stones
Are hard on bones,
Armed with angry art,
Words can sting
Like anything,
But silence breaks the heart.

The Pen is Sharper Than the Sword

(John Taylor)

Pens are most dangerous tools;
More sharp by odds than swords,
And cut more keen than whips or rods.

The World's Worst Questions

(Jane Goodsell)

Will you promise not to get mad if I tell you something?
You don't honestly expect me to believe that, do you?
Do you have statistics to back up that statement?
You don't remember me, do you?
Haven't you any sense of humor?
Have I kept you waiting?
Now what's the matter?
You asleep?
So what?
When are you going to grow up?

The Value of Enemies

There is something positive to be gained by acknowledging one's enemies. Like all God's creatures, enemies have a purpose in the world. They offer a criticism of one's conduct (albeit unsought) that is not always provided by friends. They also encourage self-esteem. How would we know the magnitude of our own worth without someone so worthless attacking it? (Roger Rosenblatt)

Below are song lists about anger, arguing, bitterness, blame, disagreement, fault, fighting, hatred, nagging, revenge, screaming, and shut up.

Songs about Anger

• Anger and Tears - Mel McDaniel (1987)
• Anger in the Land - Hedy West (1964)
• Angry All the Time - Tim McGraw (2001)
• Angry Words - Stonewall Jackson (1968)
• Angry - Al Caiola and his Orchestra (1958)
• Don't Be Angry - Mel Street (1980)
• Don't Be Mad - Simon Crum (1963)
• Don't Go Away Mad - Little Village (1992)
• Fooling Yourself (The Angry Young Man) - Styx (1978)
• Gods Were Angry With Me, The - Eddie Kirk (1948)
• I Ain't Mad at You, You Ain't Mad at Me - Count Basie (1947)
• I Can't Stay Mad at You - Skeeter Davis (1963)
• I Just Wanna Be Mad for a While - Terri Clark (2003)
• I'm Mad at My Heart - Billy Gray and His Western Okies (1955)
• Johnny, Get Angry - Joanie Sommers (1962)
• Mad - Dave Dudley (1964)
• Mad Elaine - Ian Gillan Band (1977)
• Mad Witch - Brother Dave Gardner (1958)
• Rage - Van Zant (1998)
• Righteous Anger - Van Stephenson (1984)
• Road Rage - The Lynn Morris Band (2003)
• Ruby, Are You Mad? - Buck Owens (1971)
• Tears of Rage - Jon Derek (1969)

Songs about Arguing

• 992 Arguments - The O'Jays (1972)
• Argument, The - Philip Glass (2004)
• Argument in the Parking Lot - Alan Brewer (2006)
• Arguments - Derik Nelson (2008)
• Big Argument - President Brown (2008)
• Can't Argue With That - Jon Carroll (2007)
• Christmas Quarrels - Lars Moller (2001)
• Could We Not Argue Today - Carlton J. Smith (2008)
• First Quarrel - Paul and Paula (1964)
• Jukebox Argument - Mickey Gilley (1980)
• Just Another Argument - Chyp Davis (2006)
• Late Night Quarrel - Candice Ivory (2003)
• Lovers Quarrel - Phil Pritchett (1999)
• No Need to Argue - The Cranberries (1994)
• Quarrel - Armand Amar (2007)
• Quarrels Are a Sad Sad Thing - Rusty Richards (2002)
• Teenage Quarrel - Jett Powers (1957)
• Truth is Born of Argument - The Locust (2009)
• We Had a Quarrel - Gregory Isaacs (2005)

Songs about Bitterness

• Bitter - Julia Macklin (2001)
• Bitter and Blue - Mnemonic Devices (2008)
• Bitter and Sad - Seize (2000)
• Bitter Cold - Chevallier (2006)
• Bitter Conflict - Dew-Scented (2002)
• Bitter East Wind - Quecia (2003)
• Bitter End, A - Deryl Dodd (1998)
• Bitter Harvest - John Carter Cash (2003)
• Bitter Heart - Simon Phillips (2005)
• Bitter Man, The - Desultory (1996)
• Bitter Pill to Swallow - Mark Shilansky (2002)
• Bitter Tears - Ella Blame (2008)
• Bitter with the Sweet, The - Don Gardner (1963)
• Bittersweet Love - Richie Furay (1978)
• Bittersweet Kisses - Margie Bowes (1961)

Songs about Blame

• Am I To Blame? - Chuck Miller (1953)
• Blame it on a Sad Song - Lynyrd Skynyrd (1997)
• Blame it on Mama - The Jenkins (2004)
• Blame it on Me - John Carter Cash (2003)
• Blame it on Rosey - Ray Sanders (1970)
• Blame it on Texas - Mark Chesnutt (1990)
• Blame it on the Bossa Nova - Annette (1993)
• Blame it on the Internet - Never Turn Back (2006)
• Blame it on the Rain - Michael Johnson (1980)
• Blame it on the Sun - Syreeta Wright (1980)
• Blame it on Your Heart - Patty Loveless (1993)
• Blame My Absent-Minded Heart - Mindy Carson (1949)
• Blame Somebody Else - Kim Hill (2006)
• Blame Your Eyes - Tex Atchison (1953)
• Can You Blame Me? - Linda Jones (1970)
• Don't Blame it on the Girl - Red Foley (1956)
• Don't Blame Me - The Everly Brothers (1961)
• Don't Blame the Rain - The Vogues (1966)
• I Have Only Myself to Blame - The Playmates (1956)
• I Won't Tell Who's to Blame - Hardrock Gunter (1954)
• I'll Take the Blame - Ricky Skaggs (1980)
• I'm Still to Blame - The Johnson Mountain Boys (1983)
• It's the Girl Who Gets the Blame - The Davis Sisters (1955)
• Nobody is to Blame - Victor Sanz (2005)
• Not to Blame - Joni Mitchell (1994)
• Which One of Us is to Blame? - Roy Clark (1969)
• Which One to Blame? - The Wilburn Brothers (1959)
• Who You Gonna Blame it on This Time? - Vern Gosdin (1989)
• Who's to Bless and Who's to Blame? - Kris Kristofferson (1975)
• You Can't Blame the Train - Don McLean (1987)

Songs about Disagreeing

• Agree to Disagree - Susan Ashton (1993)
• Disagree - Kim Kline (2007)
• I Don't Have the Heart to Disagree - Bob Gallion (1965)
• Let's Agree to Disagree - C.J. Chenier (2001)
• Neither Question Nor Disagree - 59 Times the Pain (2008)
• We Just Disagree - Holly Jean Cosner (2004)
• We Never Fight or Disagree - The Pale Pacific (2003)
• You Can Disagree - Clarence 'Gatemouth' Brown (1995)

Songs about Fault

• It's All My Fault - Don Winters (1960)
• It's All Your Fault - The Time Jumpers (2007)
• It's My Fault - Jessie Hill (1961)
• My Fault - Brownie McGhee (1948)
• No Fault of Mine - Benny Barnes (1956)
• Nobody's Fault - Marianne Faithfull (2002)
• Nobody's Fault But Mine - The Black Crowes (2000)

Songs about Fighting

• Attack - The Toys (1965)
• Attack of the Demon - Black Widow (1999)
• Can't Fight the Moonlight - LeAnn Rimes (2001)
• Can't Fight This Feeling - REO Speedwagon (1985)
• Don't Fight it - Kenny Loggins and Steve Perry (1982)
• Don't Fight it, Baby - Anita Humes (1964)
• Don't Fight the Feeling - Patsy Sledd (1973)
• Don't Fight the Feelings of Love - Charley Pride (1973)
• Feudin' and Fightin' - Jo Stafford (1947)
• Fight the Power - The Isley Brothers (1975)
• Fight's Not Over, The - The Toys (1963)
• Fightin' For - Cross Canadian Ragweed (2005)
• Fightin' Side of Me - Merle Haggard (1970)
• Fighting Fire with Fire - Davis Daniel (1992)
• Fighting the Blues - Ruby Wells (1955)
• Fighting with Fire - Sam Phillips (1994)
• I Can't Fight it Anymore - Great Plains (1991)
• I Don't Wanna Fight - Tina Turner (1993)
• I'd Fight the World - Jean Shepard and Ray Pillow (1966)
• I'd Rather Fight Than Switch - Larry Williams (1966)
• I'm a Lover, Not a Fighter - Jerry Corbetta (1978)
• Love Worth Fighting For - Burnin' Daylight (1996)
• Lover Not a Fighter - B.B. Watson (1993)
• Saturday Night's Alright For Fighting - The Who (1991)
• Silent Night (After the Fight) - Ronnie Milsap (1981)
• Throwin' the Fight - Haydn Vitera (2005)
• Too Weak to Fight - Clarence Carter (1969)
• We Never Fight or Disagree - The Pale Pacific (2003)
• What We're Fighting For - Dave Dudley (1965)
• You Beat Me to the Punch - Mary Wells (1962)
• You Threw a Lucky Punch - Gene Chandler (1962)

Songs about Hatred

• Don't Hate Me for Loving You - Jeff Bates (2008)
• Goodbye, I Hate to See You Go - Don Rader and His Band (1967)
• Hate Me - Blue October (2006)
• Home is Where the Hatred is - Little Esther Phillips (1972)
• I Hate Everything - George Strait (2004)
• I Hate Goodbyes - Lois Johnson (1977)
• I Hate the Way I Love it - Johnny Rodriguez and Charly McClain (1979)
• I Hate the Way Our Love is - Jimmie Peters and Linda K. Lance (1979)
• I Hate This Lovin' You - Jack Reno (1992)
• I Hate to Be the One to Say - Gene Chandler (1966)
• I Hate to See Me Go - Rose Maddox (1968)
• I Hate to See the Sun Go Down - Glenn Yarbrough (1965)
• I Hate to Wake Up Sober in Nebraska - Free Hot Lunch (1997)
• I Hate Vermont - The Smittens (2004)
• I May Hate Myself in the Morning - Lee Ann Womack (2005)
• I'll Hate Myself Tomorrow - Jimmie Dolan (1950)
• She Hates to Go Home - Marshall Crenshaw (1989)
• That's Why I Hate Pontiacs - Rebecca Lynn Howard (2005)

Songs about Nagging

• All You Do is Nag - Axis 1 (2003)
• Do Not Nag - Jay Leonhart (1988)
• Nag - Brian Gladstone (2005)
• Nag, Nag, Nag - Cabaret Voltaire (1978)
• She's Gonna Nag Me into the Grave - Studmuffin (2006)

Songs about Revenge

• Happiness Will Be My Revenge - Jens Lekman (2009)
• Revenge - Paragon (2005)
• Revenge is Sweet - Tom Mabe (2000)
• Revenge of a Middle-Aged Woman - Tracy Byrd (2005)
• Screaming for Vengeance - Judas Priest (2001)
• Revenge of the Christmas Tree - Erik Darling (2006)
• Sweet Revenge - John Prine (1991)
• Time for Revenge - Ivory (2008)
• Vengeance - Carly Simon (1979)
• Vengeance is Mine - Tonya Baker (2008)
• With a Vengeance - Junkstar (2008)

Songs about Screaming

• Scream - Mindy McCready (2001)
• Scream and Holler - Van Morrison (2006)
• Screamin' Mimi Jeanie - Moon Mullins and His Band (1960)
• Wake Up Screaming - Hogan's Heroes (2007)
• Woke Up Screaming - Bobby 'Blue' Bland (1955)

Songs about Shut Up

• Put Up or Shut Up - Echolocation (2008)
• Shoulda Shut Up - Julie Reeves and Bill Engvall (2000)
• Shut Up - Nick Lachey (2003)
• Shut Up and Dance - Aaron Watson (2003)
• Shut Up and Drink Your Beer - Merle Travis (1953)
• Shut up and Drive - Chely Wright (1997)
• Shut up and Kiss Me - Michelle Wright (2004)
• Shut Up and Listen - Elyse Haren (2008)